Male Virgin; Here is The Perfect 7 Quick Checklist
If you’re approaching countdown towards your first
experience of sexual intercourse, then fear not—everything you need to know is
right here.
Men don’t have many taboos—certainly nowhere nearly as many
as women. However, there does seem to be something of a no-talk zone
surrounding the conversation of male virginity. Indeed, even admitting to be
being a virgin, for most men, is way beyond the realms of acceptability, which
is something of a problem, really.
Women, for whom virginity is a socially acceptable state of
being, have access to a whole range of sources of advice, from their friends to
thousands of lifestyle magazines to an endless supply of internet resources.
For men, however, the exact opposite is true, with any decent advice hidden
deep beneath swathes of macho bullshit and mythology.
So you’re thinking about having sex for the very first time.
And, maybe you’re not sure how to go about this. And certain things you’ve
heard are freaking you out…
Like, you’ve heard that you’re going to get your partner
pregnant, that you’re going to get a gnarly-looking STI with itchy hives all
over your taint.
Or that you’ll completely embarrass yourself. You’re afraid
it’ll be awkward, or that you’ll completely destroy your relationship with the
person you have sex with. So, it’s understandable you might be going into
losing your virginity with a twinge of nervousness.
That’s why, I’m giving you the essential steps to having
amazing sex for the first time, whether it’s your first time EVER, or just your
first time with this specific partner. After reading this, you’ll know exactly
what to do during sex to show her that you actually know what you’re doing.
And I’m gonna give you two bonus steps that I WISH I KNEW
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Myths surrounding Sex for the first time
I’m really excited for you. You’re about to discover that
sex is a really positive thing, and nothing to be afraid of. It feels good, it
can bring you closer to your trusted sex partner, and hey! It’s healthy! It’s
not all the doom and gloom you might have heard in health class.
But first, I have a couple of myths I have to bust right
now.
MYTH #1: Everyone is
doin’ it!
This myth has been going around before your grandparents
grandparents grandparents even boned, and I’m telling you, it’s a lie.
According to a recent study, less than half of people age 22 and younger have
ever had sex. And still, for people ages 23 – 27, still 12 percent have STILL
never had sex.
Let me be the first to tell you: no one actually cares if
you’re a virgin or not. Literally, nobody cares. Other things matter way more,
like are you respectful? Do you care about people? Are you not a giant
blowhard? Read Female Pleasure 50 Creative Naughty Sex Moves to Thrill Her
Wear your heart on
your sleeve.
Tell her you’re a virgin. Most women will actually find that
very sweet, as well as commendable, and will be happy to help you through your
first time.
MYTH #2: Losing your virginity
is something that just spontaneously “happens”.
Losing your virginity is not like being struck by lightning.
You don’t trip and fall into someone’s vagina. While SOME people might
spontaneously lose their virginity, this is certainly not the rule. Because
here’s the thing: taking the “spontaneous willy nilly” approach might make us
feel unprepared, vulnerable, and anxious.
The truth is, losing your virginity requires planning. The more prepared you are, the more confident you will feel, and the better the experience will be.
So let’s dive into HOW to be good at sex … even if its the
very first time you get laid.
It’s not everything.
That sounds like a bit of a contradictory point, but it’s
absolutely true. Sex is a great part of a relationship, but it certainly
doesn’t constitute its whole part. The woman you’re about to have sex with
likes you for who you are. She isn’t going to drop you like a ton of bricks if
things don’t go according to plan. And if she does, then you’re better off
without her.
It’s not about how big it is.
Penis size is a common concern for male virgins, but it really isn’t that important to most women. Even if you are under average, there are plenty of other ways you can compensate. Read Size Doesn’t Matter – Get Her Off No Matter what!
Talk to your potential sex partner about it beforehand.
Talk about why you’re interested in having sex, why this
might be the right time, your intention for having sex with them, and what it
means for you. And real quick, get checked for STIs. Even if both of you are
virgins, if either of you have fooled around with someone at some point, you
could have contracted an STI and not even know it. There is absolutely no shame
in this, it happens all the time, just go see your doctor so you know for sure.
No one has to do anything they’re uncomfortable with.
Your partner doesn’t have the right to coerce you into
ANYTHING. And vice versa. If you don’t want to do something, say so! Speak up!
Keep this in mind too: your partner saying “no” is not an invitation to keep
pushing and begging and badgering. This is coercion, and it’s a really shitty
thing to do.
And remember — anyone can change their mind at any time.
Even if you guys are in the middle of having sex, if you or your partner
changes your mind, that is totally fair, you do not have to keep having sex.
You can always stop.
Come armed with condoms and contraception.
Just make sure you’re prepared so that everything doesn’t
come to a crashing and inconvenient halt.
Pro tip: Practice
putting a condom on beforehand. You don’t wanna be that person who fumbles with
his junk and accidentally slingshots the condom across the room. Heck, even try
masturbating with a condom on so it doesn’t feel so strange the first time you
have sex with latex wrapped around your joystick. Read Powerful Male Multi-Orgasm Masturbation Techniques
You’ve probably already heard that yes, she CAN get knocked
up even if both of you are having sex for the first time, so this is not a time
to feel lucky or take any chances.
Please please PLEASE do not forget about foreplay.
This is going to be true for the rest of your damn life. So
listen up. Foreplay is so important when it comes to sex. Girls are told that
the first time they have sex will hurt. But it doesn’t have to hurt!!
Especially if they’re warmed up first. Read Foreplay Done Right; Getting Her Horny & Bothered
So know that she’s going to take longer than you to feel
aroused. Consider going down on her, fingering her, kissing her and fondling
her breasts, rubbing your hands all over her, kissing her neck, making out…
anything to make her feel extra extra turned on, extra horny, will make sex SO
much more pleasurable for her and it will mean she won’t experience much pain
at all.
Women can’t usually just jump straight into the act without a little warming up first and, as a rule of thumb, foreplay should actually take up more time than the act itself.
Don’t forget the lube when you grab your condoms at the pharmacy!
Once again, we’re trying to avoid pain and increase comfort.
If you use lube, sex will be a much smoother, glidier experience. Lube makes it
easier for the penis to slide inside the vagina. It’s worth it.
Use your fingers to locate the vaginal opening. Guide the penis inside the vagina.
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Look — finding the vaginal opening for the first time can have you feeling a bit like Lewis and Clark. It can be really tricky at first, even for vagina-owners. I know I had a really hard time at first trying to insert a tampon, for example, because for all I knew, my vaginal opening could have been in Narnia. Read Fingering Her; Explicitly Illustrated Techniques to do it Right
Make sure you’re sober.
You’ll remember it, you’ll be better at it, and you’ll have
a better time. (oh, and the penis is way more likely to do as its told.)
Performance issues.
Don’t be surprised if you have them. Whether due to
overexcitement or nervousness, issues such as impotence and premature
ejaculation are normal the first time. But don’t worry, these issues will
normally resolve themselves after a few more experiences.
You might last all of two seconds.
Or, you might not be able to get it up at ALL.
Sometimes, your penis is like the singing dancing frog and
doesn’t do what you want it to do.
This is perfectly normal, it’s very common, your dick isn’t broken. This happens to a lot of men when they’re nervous. Just pack things up and try again later. Read Ultimate Sexual Stamina Program | The Blueprint to Mastering Male Ejaculation Control
If it is her first time too know she is not going to orgasm the first time around.
In fact, if she does, I’ll be really damn impressed.
Also look. Orgasm isn’t even the point, okay? While the
first time having sex won’t be extremely bloody and painful, it also probably
won’t be a minty blast of pleasure, either. She might honestly just feel kind
of “meh” about it. And thats fine.
The more you have sex, the more her body will get used to
having sex, and the more enjoyable it will feel. Trust me — the first time you
have sex does NOT set the tone for the rest of your sex life.
And while we’re talking about orgasms, absolutely do not
pressure your partner or yourself to have an orgasm. First of all, this just
isn’t realistic. And it just causes pressure and stress that just doesn’t have
to be there. Read Female Orgasm 101; Preparation, Building & Delivering it
Signs.
The best way to tell how well things are going is to check
her response. If she’s just lying there staring at the ceiling, then it’s time
to try something else. If she’s panting and groaning with pleasure, however,
you’re onto a winner.
Just ask.
Seriously, if you’re not sure what to do, or if you’re not
sure if what you’re doing is right or not, then just ask. Women are really
responsive to that kind of thing and will be happy to guide you around their
bodies.
Know that you or your partner might have an emotional
reaction when you’re done with the deed.
You might laugh, you might cry, you might feel depressed,
you might need snuggles or space… this is common. So be prepared and
open-minded about whatever emotions come. After all, they won’t last forever.
Bonding
Take a little time afterwards to cuddle up together and have
a little talk. You’ll be able to reflect on your first experience together and
put some of your doubts and worries behind you. You might also learn a little
about how to improve next time.
BONUS — keep it simple.
Do not try to be a fancy figure skater and wow your partner
with your sweet moves. This is not parkour. And this is not the time for saucy
horizontal dance moves or tricky sex positions.
Right now, the missionary position is perfect. Your partner
will appreciate that you’re not trying to reinvent the wheel. But depending on
your body type, shape feel free to try a
couple of different sexual positions to see which suit you best, but by all
means, don’t overdo it or stress about it.
If you’re enjoying it, then just go with the flow and let your bodies
take care of themselves.
Read The Male Virgin; An Illustrated Guide For First time Sex with a Woman
11. The Male Virgin; An Illustrated Guide For First time Sex with a Woman
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